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Monday, November 16, 2015

MY PLANS FOR THE VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY LONG WEEKEND

My very long weekend starts at this very moment. As I’ve told you in my previous posts, I’m a civil servant and government work in NCR is suspended from November 17-20, 2015 for the APEC Leaders' Meeting.  I won’t discuss my opinion on this APEC something though.  What’s  in my plate right now is a six-day vacation!  I’m very excited.  No. We will not travel or hole up in  a posh hotel in the metro.  We don’t have funds for that yet.  I will just stay at home with my darling girl.  We will play, sing, laugh, dance and make yakap-yakapan. Moms especially working moms know how exciting days off are. 

  Here are my other plans:

1.       Finish my work backlog
2.       Buy and wrap Christmas gifts
3.       Clean our house
4.       Finish the remaining episodes of Scandal
5.       Go to the park
6.       Cook

Chasen, you need to be productive!  Repeat six times. 


Thanks for reading and sorry if I made you feel envious. Joke. Lol

Friday, November 13, 2015

MOMMY'S GUILT

This post has been sitting in my draft folder for days already. I was a little bit hesitant to publish this because I don’t want to be judged. Actually, being judged as a woman, wife or employee doesn’t give me a fright.  But, I fear being judged as a mother. I fear being judged on how I raise my daughter.  I don’t know how to explain this to you (without oversharing) but  I feel that the world expects me to be the perfect mom to Baby C.    I am expected to shower her with so much love (which is so easy for me) and to raise her well (which is a tricky thing). Although I fear to be criticized, I still decided to click the publish box.   It’s a way for me to accept and to admit to the whole  world, that I am not perfect…that I am far from being a perfect parent but I am striving to be the bestest mom to my daughter…that I make mistakes but very willing to correct them.

Days  ago, Baby C had her monthly checkup and vaccination.   The doctor did a physical exam.  She told me that my daughter is doing well, and is reaching her developmental milestones.  I asked her to check if there is something wrong with my baby’s legs because they seem bowed.  I noticed them when I reviewed   her first steps video. I googled and found out that it's  normal that baby's legs may appear bowed, and her legs will gradually straighten.   But, I still asked the pedia. She somewhat  confirmed that Baby C is bowlegged.    I wanted to cry right then and there but still forced myself not to shed a tear.   If you’re a mom, you know that I’m not being OA.  I was devastated and   I felt so guilty.   I recalled being told by my brother in law not to put Baby C in  a carrier because it may cause bowleggedness but I didn’t obey. I was told not to use disposable diaper every day but I insisted.  I was told to massage Baby C’s legs every day but there were times that I failed to do so.  My head was screaming “I am the culprit!”    Although I believe they are myths, the what-if-they-were-true made me want to punch myself.   Although the pedia said that most bowleg cases are hereditary, I still blamed myself.   

I looked at the pedia waiting for her to retract her words.   But,  she calmly  told me that if I want, she could refer Baby C to a  pediatric orthopedic or wait until she is able to walk on her own.  I chose the latter because I was  optimistic that her legs will still straighten and will no longer need the help of an ortho. I now regret that decision and realize that I need to have her legs checked by a specialist the earliest possible time.  So, this week I will have her legs checked.

There’s more.  The pedia confirmed that Baby C has an upper lip tie.  Upper lip tie is when the  upper lip is  tied to the upper gum.  It  might affect a baby’s appetite and speech, depending on how  severe the case is.     She told me not to worry because apparently her condition does not affect her appetite and speech.    As to what to do next, we will wait until her two front teeth fully erupt.  

When I broke the news to my husband, he freaked out.   He was so worried and bothered. We even fought because he thought I was taking the matter lightly.  Well, I’m good at faking.    But, at the end of the day, we both convinced ourselves that we are still blessed because the findings are “malayo sa bituka.”

  

Thursday, November 5, 2015

BOOK EXCHANGE

At 1 year old, Baby C has more or less 20 books.  She can’t read yet.  She even tears and “eats” her books. Despite the tearing and eating, we still continue to buy her books.  We want her to be exposed to books at an early age.   We want her to know that reading is cool. 

When I saw the facebook status re: BOOK EXCHANGE  on my newsfeed, I spontaneously commented, "Count me in".  Actually, it was not the 36 books that Baby C might receive that lure me into signing up.     It was the idea of spreading the love for reading.   Besides, giving a book to a kid won’t hurt, right?

The facebook status goes this way.

“Calling all mommies, daddies, mommies-to-be, teachers, grandmas, grandpas, and all book lovers!
I need friends of any age to participate in a BOOK EXCHANGE!
You only have to buy ONE book and send it to one child, then your child will receive 36 books or more in return!
Let me know if you are interested and I will send the information! It's really easy! You can buy a book and send it to your assigned recipient through Xend or Fastrack or LBC or the post office. Or you can order through Lazada, Fully booked, National Bookstore, or any online shopping sites for books and have it shipped directly to your assigned recipient.
BABY C will be super excited to get mail and you literally just have to buy and send ONE book!” 

If you want to know how this works, email me at chasenmae@yahoo.com. 

Thanks.  

Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Trick or Treat


I was born in the 80s and I consider myself as Batang 90s. Trick or treating was not part of my childhood. Halloween for me then was going to the cemetery, making balls out of candle wax, eating balut with cousins and listening to scary stories.    And  I only received treats during Santacruzan or Flores de Mayo.


In this day and age, we have adopted the way the Americans celebrate Halloween.  I believe it’s not a bad thing.  For me, celebrating Halloween by wearing costumes has no religious implication.  In my opinion, it’s not about worshipping devil or whatsoever. It’s only about having fun…no more, no less.  It’s the time of the year when kids and adults can wear spooky, cute or whatever costume they want to wear.    But of course, for us Catholics, it  is  the time when we remember and offer prayers for our departed loved ones.

Last Friday, we had a Halloween party at the office.  It’s actually for the employees’ kids and grandchildren. Yes, most of my officemates are already lolos and lolas.  But, hey,  they are the coolest lolos/lolas.  One thing  I love about my job is that I have the coolest and “game-st”  officemates ever!   I brought my daughter with me for her first ever Halloween party.  We were not able to join last year because I was on leave.    That day,  she was a kalabasa girl.








Her Ate (nanny) came in costume too.  She was amusing.  Project kung project! Lol



Me?



I was a mumu!









Indeed, it was a fun and spooktacular activity.



Monday, November 2, 2015

Increasing my Cash Inflow

Our financial status is not at its best.   Our household expenses have bloated while our cash inflow has decreased. I think I already mentioned  that I no longer receive windfalls.  Also, my husband’s salary increase this year is  below 5% of his last year’s salary.  While we are not on the phase where our cash outflow is more than our cash inflow, the fact that I sometimes regret our decision to invest in  real properties is alarming.   

I don’t think my salary will  augment  in the near future.  Although  I heard that there is a bill seeking the increase of salaries of government employees, I’m sure that the increase would not be that dramatic. Spell INCOME TAX!   To receive a higher salary, my only recourse is to pass the exam and automatically hop to Salary Grade 23, which is a few notches higher than my salary grade.   Believe me, it’s easier said than done.  I’m still hopeful though. 

To boost my income, I decided to engage in retail business.  Since I have a day job and I have a limited capital, I opted to display my merchandise on Instagram and Facebook.  So far, I am having fun.  Speaking of having fun, let me share this conversation with my husband.

Dan: Kumusta naman ang business mo?
Me: I’m having fun.
Dan: Anong I’m having fun? Hindi kita binigyan ng capital to have fun.
Me: LOL

He then lectured me about marketing strategies and accounting and stuff.  My husband’s degree in college  has nothing to do with business or commerce.   He never experienced doing business either.  He’s a software engineer.   Yet, he has the guts to teach me about business! The last time I checked it was me who took up Commerce  and who has a vast experience in sales!(I experienced selling longganisa, ham, tuyo, daing,  firecrackers, avon products and many more!!!lol)  He loves books and that explains why he has knowledge, albeit general,  on business, stocks, marketing and even law.   In all fairness, his ideas are great.  One of those is to use this blog as a marketing tool.   Yeah, this is actually  an advertisement post.  Haha.  

So, if you are looking for trendy but affordable clothes, please feel free to follow Chascents (where shopping is a guiltless indulgence) on Instagram and Facebook.  By the way, I used to sell perfumes and Chascents was my "brand name". I retained it even if it does not suggest the category of the merchandise I am selling.  Wala lang, gusto ko lang. Lol.  

Wish me luck on this new venture. Thank you.